Today I had a heartfelt conversation with Jesse Hawkins. He’s the founder of Sober Voyager, a company dedicated to spreading awareness and hope to addicts and their loved ones. You can check out our Facebook Live video below.
At 25, Jesse felt hopeless and depressed. Living life without purpose or meaning, he turned to alcohol to hide a secret he’d kept from his family for over 20 years; he had been sexually abused. You can read more about his story here.
“My downfall was I truly believed I couldn’t do anything in life”
Even as he was getting sober, Jesse’s fears, self-doubt and insecurities kept getting in the way. I admire his determination, authenticity and ability to make his past into a positive message. He shares that getting sober was not an easy road but looking back, there were some key factors that helped along the way.
Addiction or not, your ultimate success depends on accountability. You need someone to help you take a dream, develop it into goals, work out a strategy and execute a plan. For Jesse, it was his support group in AA and his sponsor. For me, it’s my own life coach.
Look back at the progress you’ve made, give yourself credit and focus on the positive things in life.
Living in the Moment
While I always say that you have to dream big, as Jesse quoted “The best way to eat an elephant is one piece at a time.” Take your goals one day at a time, be present and focus on your daily wins.
Jesse mentions one of the most powerful tools he used to stay sober was to focus daily on not having a drink that day and then figuring out how to inspire someone else.
Getting to know yourself, who you are and what you truly desire plays a big role in achieving success. Jesse reflected on his life and knew it was time to make a change. Today, he embraces his messy story and uses it as a powerful message, touching the lives of others.
So no matter who you are, what your past is... there’s something magical about being able to connect with that part of you, embrace it fully and use it as your fuel.
I was so in awe with the courage that Jesse has, sharing this story isn't easy. But what motivates him is the opportunity to help someone who may be in the place he once was and showing them that it's possible.
It can be so difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel when we’re stuck in the middle of tough times. But I learned that sharing your story gives you the opportunity to become that light for someone else.
Whatever your struggle is, whatever story you have, just know that you have the power to rewrite that story and decide how it ends.