4 Key Areas to Balance & Nourish for Success

Whether or not you're accomplished or happy, we all have areas of our life that could use some nourishment – and sometimes, different amounts of TLC (tender loving care). Think about your relationships, for instance. Do you feel like you've hit the peak in your relationships or love life? Feeling like everything has worked out or you've found the love of your life? If so, congrats! But now let's take a look at another area: your career. Are you doing work you love? What about your health? Do you feel happy and energized?

EACH AREA OF YOUR LIFE IS INTERCONNECTED.

I believe when we neglect any area in our life, we become imbalanced. That energy leaks into other areas of your life. Balance is achieved when we are nourishing every area that's important to you. 

I will say, it's not about living a perfect life where we're 100% on our game 100% of the time, but the idea is to achieve healthy and balanced growth. In my journey, I focused so much on my career; I neglected my health and relationships. Then when I began to focus on my health and relationships, I paid less attention to my finances. Now I can say I'm nourishing and giving love to each area that needs me. When all our energy is focused on one thing, it's all too easy to find yourself off balance, not paying enough attention to areas that are so important in your life!

THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME TO TAKE A "HELICOPTER VIEW" OF YOUR LIFE, SO THAT YOU CAN BRING THINGS BACK INTO BALANCE.

Too many people are caught up with making a living – and not designing their life. But to be able to design your life, you must first create your map of where you are today.
- Tony Robbins

To live your life to the fullest, I believe there are four areas of life you need to develop in balance. Those four areas are health & wellness, love & relationships, career & business, and spirituality.

HEALTH & WELLNESS
LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
CAREER & BUSINESS
SPIRITUALITY

The Wheel of Life is a great way to view each facet of your life so you can assess what's off balance. As such, it helps you rate its quality level, so you can uncover which areas have room for improvement and identify where the gaps are between where you stand and where you want to be.

The Wheel of Life can be found on Google in numerous websites but here's a workbook I created especially for you with some questions and action steps. It also has these four areas broken down into more specific areas. 

Let me know your thoughts and feel free to email me your results if you want some support and accountability!

3 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship

3 Ways to Deepen Love and Relationships

While I can’t claim that I’ve perfected my relationships, I can say that every day I learn a little about how to be a better partner, lover, friend and daughter. Specifically in romantic relationships, sometimes it’s easy to forget to approach every situation with love. It’s easy to get mad, frustrated and sometimes even give up. To me, the key to a long lasting and healthy relationship relies on many things but I found that with these 3 “rules” or practices we can certainly start to approach difficult situations with our best foot forward.

Practicing Positive Projection

I first read this in a book somewhere, I can’t remember where. It really resonated with me because I am a highly sensitive person and can really take things to heart sometimes. It’s definitely tough, especially if you’ve been in past relationships where you’ve been hurt or disappointed. At times, our partner can say or do something that causes us to feel offended, we immediately feel attacked and think this person is trying to hurt us.

The truth is, it comes from that baggage, that old hurt, old pain and old patterns we’re carrying into our new relationships. What we know from psychology is that often, one partner says something to another and the second person will blow up the comment in their own mind. But when you look at the transcript, you realize they meant no offense. Infact, sometimes the person who is the angriest, can’t even remember what the other person said. They might be tired, distracted, or stressed; give them the patience and love they deserve.

The best thing we can do is project the positive qualities they have and assume the BEST in them.

Practice Deep Listening

 We all know communication in a relationship is KEY; deep listening, is a huge component of that. The essence to being a better listener is to listen longer and deeper. To be present in the moment and allow your partner to vent. Sometimes we find ourselves trying to input our own opinion or fix a situation but we fail to really listen what’s going on. We often try to tell people how to feel, we cut them off or we try to one up the person with something that we’re thinking about. I first heard this concept when I was training to be a Life Coach. Deep listening was a skill we needed to learn to better help our clients find their own answers.  

In arguments, the number one thing that happens is that both parties are so concerned with getting their point across, that they fail to listen to each other.

Deep listening is a VERY powerful tool and I think we could all use it when it comes to our relationships.

Approach everything with LOVE

Sometimes we approach situations with fear rather than love. We make assumptions, conclusions and create expectations without really analyzing what YOU are bringing to the table in the relationship. 

I find that many people often ask so much from a relationship. They want more surprises, more romance, more love, more this and that. Instead, ask yourself, what have YOU been doing for your relationship, who are you being in this relationship? Are you loving, kind, respectful, sensual, playful? Think about what things you long for and how you can bring more of that into your relationship. 

Ultimately, happiness  in a relationship depends on the two people involved. My motto is that you cannot change who someone else is in the relationship, what they say and how they behave. What we do have control over is ourselves and our mindset.

The Power of Journaling: 5 Benefits of Writing Everyday

The Power of Journaling

Journaling is a tool that can change your life and guess what? It will only cost you a couple bucks! I always journaled here and there but it was very inconsistent. Now that I am regularly writing things down, I feel a sense of better understanding. I feel like there were missing pieces and parts of me I didn’t really notice until I started writing about them. It’s also played a key role in what I consider my success. I feel happier, more organized and like I know what’s going on in my mind.

Even journaling just 20 minutes a day could bring you these amazing benefits:

Helps you know yourself and your truth better.

Experts believe journaling actually helps understand our own thoughts and feelings differently. It allows you to make a deeper connection with yourself and truly understand yourself better. It’s a great way to record the past and connect the dots between what you’ve done that has caused your present situation.

In my experience, journaling has helped aid self-discovery and revealed different aspects of myself that I believe were dug deep inside of me. As you write, you begin to let your thoughts flow naturally and find the “missing pieces.”

Reduces stress

Journaling is proven to bring us to a calmer state once we’re able to get those negative feelings down on paper. It allows you to organize your thoughts and help you solve problems more effectively. When we encounter problems we generally use the left side of our brain. When we journal, we’re forcing the brain to look at our emotions and challenging situations in a more creative way (using the right side of our brain)!

Make you happier through gratitude journaling 

Gratitude is a great way to reduce stress and improve your psychological health. There have been numerous studies proving that recognizing all you have to be thankful for – even during the worst times of your life – fosters resilience and happiness. Recently, I’ve been writing down three things I am grateful for every day before getting my day started and it’s actually improved my mood and the way I start my day. It reminds you that anything challenging you may be going through will pass, and that there’s something to be grateful for every single day.

Enhances creativity

Whether you’re writing down your memories or you’re writing your personal life story, journaling helps you become a more creative person. It gets your creative juices flowing! For those who use journal prompts, it gets you thinking about things you wouldn’t have otherwise thought about. It’s a great way to brainstorm and get all your ideas and future plans on paper.

Capture your life’ story

You see, our life is a story and journaling helps you see that story and literally write where you want your main character (you) to end up going. I can also tell you that it’s really neat to go back and look at some of the stories and memories you captured in your past and see those situations in a new perspective.

What you write about is up to you, whatever is going through your head. It’s a vague recommendation but that’s the only thing I could tell you. But to inspire you, this is what you can do:

Write your goals or brainstorm your ideas

Journal about your day

Catalog your memories

Journal about yourself and your story

 

Don’t make it an obligation for every day, it will be more fun when you do it as you get inspired but I keep it next to my bed so I get in the habit of doing it as much as I can! It’s fun and easy.

If it’s something that you’ve tried and hasn’t worked, it’s stressed you out, maybe you can find something else like drawing a picture, photography or recording a video for yourself. Find any creative way to process your life. I found that journaling has been a really big component of my personal development and the journey I’ve taken to self-discovery.

Let me know what works for you. Do you journal?